What not to do if you changed

You were sure that your family life is perfect, and fully trust her husband, until he received clear and concrete evidence of his treason. Your "second half", it turns out, is tied more to a man who engaged him in intimate relationships ... Yes, you have changed. What now? And most importantly - which do not need?



Experts on family and marriage according to list the five things which in any case no need to do if your permanent partner or spouse was convicted of treason by you.



1 - No hysterics, no tear, nor angry, not at risk of jumping from the tenth floor, "cut the vein, kill and changed, and the object change the senses. If you're really bad, give way to anger and tears, you can in a circle of friends, alone, on the admission of a psychologist ... But you changed the beloved person, you should communicate smoothly and calmly, that "you will add points" in his eyes, and will not allow do you blame for this situation.



2 - Do not demand from the changed "report with the details. You can and have the right to ask "how you came to such a life, but if in response to a spouse are limited to explaining the obscure, like" we met in a certain place, and liked each other, do not push, do not ask for more details. Changed over time will tell it all himself.



3 - Do not throw away "wrong \ wrong" on the street, to the accompaniment of loud swearing. However, quietly put out a partner, too, not worth it, unless you have long sought it. If you do not need it - changed the people you leave yourself. But if he stays close to you, so all is not lost, and there is an opportunity to restore relations.



4 - Do not try to "revenge" even if you really want. Initiated "with malice" novels any good will not only exacerbate existing problems, and adding your new.



5 - Do not try to compete with passion for your partner. In the best case, you will become a copy of "razluchnitsy \ being separated, but who would prefer to copy - the original? It is better to try to remember that once attracted you and your partner to each other, and try to restore it is these qualities, including, and spiritual.